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| Wedding day..... when we promised to love and honor each other |
DARE 15: Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine. It may be holding the door for her. It might be putting his clothes away for him. It may be the way you listen and speak in your communication. Show your mate that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes.
From now on I choose to honor Hubby by trying to actively be in the moment when we are speaking to each other. Being a chronic multitasker, it's very hard for me to do one thing only. So when I'm talking to Hubby, I either have the laptop on doing research on whatever has my attention at the moment (I'm a chronic fact junkie as well) or a few projects, cleaning and the television going. I may occasionally look him in the eye and I am totally able to really listen and respond as well as work on something else, but..... I never stopped to think how it appeared. Now I see the scenario and am inwardly cringing. It would appear I don't value my time or conversation with Hubby and that's not true. So I choose to honor him by giving my full attention to our conversations whether it be on the phone or in person. I especially want to pay attention to this in the evenings, which is really our only alone time since I'm not up early most days. This may take some practice as it's pretty much second nature to me now to have a million things happening at once. But I'm excited about it especially with how much Dare 14 helped my perspective!
I also think that in the future, I need to make it a priority to keep the master bed and bath a peaceful place for us as another way to honor our relationship. That's another ingrained habit I'll have to work at chipping away. It's no secret that I struggle with housework. And while I keep the rest of our home in decent condition (ie: I wouldn't be embarrassed if someone were to walk in at any minute), the master room is increasingly becoming more or less storage for things that don't have a place. It will help me as well, to rest better and not constantly be worrying about the piles of things around us when I'm trying to fall asleep.
So beautifully put! I also multi-task and since my love language is time, it is so important to me to have hubby's full attention, right down to eye contact. Now just because that isn't his love language doesn't mean I shouldn't do the same for him. Thanks for the reminder!
ReplyDeleteI struggle with both challenges you mentioned. I love it when my husband gives me his undivided attention. I need to do the same for him. I feel like I'm engaged in our conversations, but it probably doesn't look that way. Also, our bedroom tends to be an overflow room. When laundry doesn't get put away, it waits in baskets...in our room. Out of sight, out of mind. I forget what state it's in until we go to bed. Not a very romantic setting.
ReplyDeleteGreat post! And I love seeing your wedding photos. So beautiful!