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Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Love Dare #7 I Believe in You...

Love and laughter on our wedding day

DARE 7: Get two sheets of paper. On one, make a list of positive attributes about your spouse. Then do the same with the negatives on the second sheet.  Place both sheets in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute about your spouse and thank them for having this characteristic. 

The positive list was the easier one to make and that encouraged me so much because 1) it means I'm not dwelling so much on the negative, and 2)I have one great hubby!  Also, I loved that the positive list is way longer than the negative one. I know that at times I can stew about the not so attractive attributes, but hey, my own negative list may be pretty long for all I know, so who am I to judge?

Today I thanked him for always kissing me hello and goodbye. It's something about him that I've always loved and he still does it.

So far this study has me learning things about myself that I thought were pretty worked out. Like Dare 6 about control, I totally didn't see that meltdown coming. And then this one, I groaned when I first read it, but as I made the lists, I realized this is actually a good part of our relationship. Wow, kind of shows how messed up my thinking has been. So worried about controlling things I can't control, and thinking it's fine, then meditating over negative things at times when there are so many more positives about Hubby to focus on! After Dare 6 I was a little apprehensive, but I'm encouraged and looking forward to tomorrow.


  1. I've finally learned that when I think I have everything under control I'm about to get a wake up call, because we're not supposed to be in control- He is. I must say that your sharing this journey is not only inspirational, but validating and edifying as well. And your wedding photo is absolutely beautiful!!!

  2. Beautiful! I love your honesty. The negatives for my hubby are SO hard to think of! He is wonderful in most every way!

  3. Swell Studio- Thank you for the sweet compliment! After my salvation, marrying Hubby was the best decision I've ever made :) I'm so glad we both continue to be blessed by the Love Dare!

    Wendy- Yes, you have a wonderful man, but he's got quite a great wife! This study continues to challenge and I'm so thankful for that :)


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